Facebook Faux Pas
October 12, 2010 2 Comments
Inspired by www.yourstatusisannoying.com, a website that and is both lovable and objectively hilarious.
The line between “social networking” and actual, real-life “socializing” is constantly getting blurrier. And it seems that users are finding more and more reasons to put even more information on Facebook. Sure, Facebook is handy when your mom asks what old so-and-so from high school is up to and you want to find out without having to make personal contact. It’s also great for sharing vacation photos. However, there are many things I believe Facebook should never be used for. And so follows my angry list.
1. Airing your dirty laundry. Facebook is not a dispute resolution forum. Starting or trying to resolve arguments via status updates and/or comments thereto may be mildly entertaining for us bystanders, but think: you’re putting that stuff online for all to see. All 400 of your Facebook “friends”, that is. Yes, it’s funny for us (to a certain extent), but rather than cathartic for you, it’s just embarrassing and likely regretful.
2. Offering condolences. This is the worst. If someone died or lost someone, or got fired or dumped, condolences should be offered in person or over the telephone, NOT by wall post or status update. You don’t need to invite everyone on Facebook into someone else’s personal suffering. Worst case scenario – you absolutely cannot call or visit – send a private e-mail or message. And if you’re not close enough to give them a direct message, then you’re not close enough to be obligated to comment on the situation at all; it’s none of your business, so leave it alone altogether.
3. Quoting lyrics incessantly. Annoying. Extremely annoying. This behaviour will fast-track you to deletion.
4. The same goes for constant “inspirational” quotes and strange rhetorical questions. If I was in the market for inspiration, Facebook would not be on my list of places to look.
5. TMI: too much information. This can be any number of things: health issues, relationship woes, conflicts at work and school, anything at all about your sex life or lack thereof. If it’s something you should probably keep private or only within your inner circle, it should stay far away from Facebook.
6. Discussing bowel movements. Of anyone. This falls under the realm of too much information, but occurs frequently enough to deserve special mention. Potty training your child? Congratulations. I have zero interest in learning about it, and these types of statuses and any accompanying photos will get your profile hidden at best, but more likely removed completely. There are, what, almost 7 billion people on earth? Most of them figure out the toilet eventually. A miracle is it not.
7. Your daily minutia. I really don’t care what you’re wearing or what you ate for dinner the last 20 days in a row. If you feel you must absolutely must share this meaningless information via the internet get a Twitter account.
8. Flirting. Gross. Sure, she does look hot in that photo from Cancun (that is probably two years old), but at least drool via text message.
9. Discussing your diet/work-out regime. I’m lazy, I know. I don’t need you to make me feel guilty about it. You’re just bragging, anyway. Which brings me to…
10. Unnecessary and transparent bragging. Yes, Facebook allows you to show off and edit your information in order to portray your own notion of the “ideal you” (that does not exist in reality, FYI). We all know this, so showing off is not required and/or should be done with tact and subtlety.
11. Baiting your friends. Here I’m referring to the ambiguous status updates that don’t say anything in particular but hint to deep emotional turmoil, begging for follow-up comments like “are you okay?” and “what happened?” I make it a point to never indulge these attention seekers.
12. Be a Debbie Downer. Hate your job? Your parents? Your ex? Generally depressed? Vent elsewhere. Write a haiku. Go for a walk. See a counsellor. Do something, anything, other than sharing these woes through Facebook, because Facebook is not going to help or change anything. Also, it’s not wise to put any feelings you may regret later (or that may find their way back to the subject person) on the internet, because once it’s out there, it’s out there.
13. The infamous “is” update. “Bob is.” That’s it. The end. How very Descartes of you. Clearly you’ve run out of ideas. If you don’t have anything worthwhile to say, don’t say anything at all.
14. Exhibit why you failed high school English. I appreciate proper spelling and grammar in Facebook content, what can I say? So until Facebook implements a spell-check feature, do us all a favour and go easy on the capital letters and exclamation points. Learning the difference between “there”, “their”, and “they’re” will truly make you a better person.
15. Coordinate important events. Wedding invitations via Facebook? Really? I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: tack-y.
16. Posting anything racist, sexist, or generally offensive. This should be self-explanatory, but sadly is not.
17. Updates that read something like “If you can read this, you made the cut”. I’m happy you discovered the friend-removal function and have now realized you don’t need to be “friends” with everyone you’ve ever had a conversation with, but is this supposed to make me feel special?
18. Your legal problems. Lost custody of your kid? Spent the night in the slammer? As much as we all love to revel in the misfortune of others, sharing this information with the masses is just another instance of the poor judgment that probably got you into those situations in the first place.
19. TV spoilers. In the age of the PVR, it is completely inappropriate and totally inconsiderate to announce the results of finales, evictions and plot twists in your status update. Any wrath incurred as a result is warranted. You’ve been warned. The same applies to any movie that hasn’t been out on DVD for more than a month.
20. Statuses that request you to copy and paste them as your own status. You know, so a wish comes true or something. They are the chain letters of Facebook.
Please feel free to comment with your own grievances or post how awesome this is as your status update.
A special prize will be given to anyone who can devise a status update that violates all 20.